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Dads and Doulas
The relationship between a doula and dads (partners) can be very important. They work together as a team. My intent as a doula is not to diminish the dads' role, but to enhance it—to free him or her up to stand by the mother—to give recognition and validation to both. A mother needs to feel her partner’s care, love, sense of communication, responsibility and sense of sharing in the ultimate experience of bringing her child into the world. The partner also may have fears, “Will everything be all right?” "Is this normal?” A doulas ability to encourage and verbalize what is happening is deeply reassuring. She can prepare your partner for what is coming, give suggestions, and provide encouragement. She is a model for supportive behavior and attitudes. An ongoing study of partners has suggested that their behavior is altered when they are not the only person responsible for the support of the mother. The presence of a doula compliments a partner's role, and strengthens it.
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